Marriage can be tricky.
But there’s a simple solution to making it work, every time.
The best way to make a marriage work is for both spouses to nurture a genuine desire to help the other be the very best they can be.
Think about the constant energy and life that would release into the marriage.
Once you realize the benefit of this approach, it should become one of the foundational elements of your marriage.
Instead, what we often find are spouses who focus more on one another’s faults than on their strong suits.
But you see, you can’t change people.
When you get married, you think that you’re going to be able to “work on” and eventually change your spouse. I honestly had a 28-year-old man who was about to marry his 18-year-old fiancé say to me that he was marrying such a young girl because then he’d be able to change and mold her more easily.
Now that’s just silly.
You can’t change a person, but what we can do is want to pull each other forward and facilitate one another in becoming the best we can be at what we want to be best at!
Are you following?
Now, God can change you, but not at the fundamental level some spouses are looking for. If you are quiet, He’s not going to make you loud, because He’s the One Who made you quiet to start with.
No, what we need to do is change our concept.
How much happiness you enjoy in your marriage is entirely dependent on how much you’re willing to help your spouse be the best they can be. And at what they want to be best at!
That last bit is important.
I promise, if you do this, your mate is going to be happier. And guess what happens if he or she is happier? That’s right, YOU will be happier.
Wanting to be happy is not selfish. In fact, as we’ve learned here, the key to happiness is helping the other person in your life.